I know first hand the complicated thoughts and feelings that often accompany your struggle to conceive again. And not one woman should be left to sort through them on her own.
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Hello, I’m Allie
An occupational therapist with a mission to provide specific and much needed support to women experiencing infertility during motherhood
When my husband, Michael, and I began fertility treatments to bring our second child into the world, I was met with a flood of conflicting feelings.
There is a societal expectation that women who are already mothers don’t or shouldn’t feel the same longing and emotional turbulence as women who are still trying for their first child..
And that’s actually true, to some degree.
Because it is different. The mental, physical, and logistical challenges are different when you are parenting in the midst of infertility.
But I am here to say it is okay to struggle with the uncertainty of whether or not you will ever conceive again. It does not mean you aren’t thankful for what you have. It does not reduce your love for your present child(ren).
Sadness and gratitude can coexist. And through my personal experience, I have learned the importance of holding space for both.
When my husband, Michael, and I began fertility treatments to bring our second child into the world, I was met with a flood of conflicting feelings.
There is a societal expectation that women who are already mothers don’t or shouldn’t feel the same longing and emotional turbulence as women who are still trying for their first child..
And that’s actually true, to some degree.
Because it is different. The mental, physical, and logistical challenges are different when you are parenting in the midst of infertility.
But I am here to say it is okay to struggle with the uncertainty of whether or not you will ever conceive again. It does not mean you aren’t thankful for what you have. It does not reduce your love for your present child(ren).
Yearning and gratitude can coexist. And through my personal experience, I have learned the importance of holding space for both.
What it means to Hold Both
THINGS THAT BRING ME JOY
Keeping fresh cut flowers on my table year round to make it feel like my favorite season – summer
Sipping a local craft beer on our balcony, listening to live music coming from Wrigley Field
Reading & writing, especially in a spot overlooking water
Vacations to Northern Michigan with my two young boys and my husband, Michael
I WANT TO TALK
